Ep 163 - Breaking Free from Addiction: The Hidden Pain and Path to True Freedom with Chandler Rogers

Struggling with pornography? You're not alone. It is a battle many Catholic men face in silence, but there's real hope in community, faith, and understanding the root causes. 

In this episode of The Manly Catholic, I sit down with Chandler Rogers, co-founder and CEO of Relay, a tech platform designed to help men overcome porn addiction through connection and structured support. Chandler shares his personal journey from hidden shame to freedom, revealing how porn isn't just a "sin problem" but often stems from unmet emotional needs and pain. 

We dive into the science of addiction, the power of brotherhood, and why true healing involves mind, body, and spirit. As Catholic men, we're called to live with integrity, and Chandler and I challenge you to examine your early relationships with parents and peers, identifying where your needs for belonging and affirmation went unmet. This reflection isn't about blame; it's about unlocking healing to become the men God created us to be. 

Whether you're stuck in cycles of relapse or seeking preventive tools, this conversation equips you with practical steps, including how Relay's teams, daily check-ins, and red flag system foster accountability without judgment. Tune in to reclaim your freedom and step closer to Christ.

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Powerful Quotes to reflect on: 

1. "The opposite of addiction is connection and that... therefore isolation is where addiction thrives."
2. "You don't have a porn problem, you have a pain problem."
3. "We're not just trying to be porn free. We're trying to be healthier individuals. We're trying to come closer to Christ."

Challenge yourself today: Reflect on your childhood relationships. Did you feel fully seen and affirmed by your parents or peers? Identify one unmet need, like belonging, and address it through prayer or talking to a trusted brother in Christ. This small step uncovers pain-fueling habits and opens the door to God's healing grace.